Mirror Work - How to be Your Own Best Friend

Have you ever done mirror work.  Its like when you look at your self and say nice things.  You can, if you like, first allow your inner critic to do her worst and say ALL the things - try writing them down and see what you say to yourself.  It can be quite a shocker.  Like, you would NEVER say that stuff to someone you liked.  Or probably anyone, unless you absolutely despised them and wanted to hurt them and make them feel bad.  And if anyone said those things to you, you would be hurt and hopefully never speak to that person again. 

Then, look at yourself again, with eyes of love, as if, you know, you were looking at someone you liked deeply - like a sister or a daughter, or a good friend.  Then  - then write down what say to yourself now. 

I am taking a punt that I am not the only one who picks out my faults when I look at myself, and says that mean stuff.  I mean, sometimes I don't do that, when the lighting is good and I am feeling pretty good about myself. 

And these days, I am practicing changing those patterns.  And if I catch my refletction, I am practicing saying good stuff back at me.   Like my reflection is now backing me up, being my own best friend.  I smile at myself. 

And I am not perfect and this practice is a practice.  But it sure feels better.  And its what I want now.  I am on my side.